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Auto-Punch Activated [Apr. 30th, 2008|12:44 pm]
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When I was a kid I didn't have many female friends. I was always too weird, too rambunctious and too loud for the patience of the other little girls and I generally found the other little girls to be boring and their games of Barbie-Ken frottage rote, dull and awkward (why the fuck would I want to watch two dolls lie on each other? why are you beholding this with such fascination?).

Since late high school I started making more and more female friends and it kind of bothers me how few of them have any education or experience with feminism, self-image, or even concepts of self-worth. It drives me crazy to have my beautiful fat friend talk shit about herself. It makes me enraged to see another friend bend over backwards to be kind to a guy who has been yo-yoing her for months, and yet I don't feel like it is my right to say anything in either situation. I know my soapbox is unwelcome even though all I want to say is ditch the jerk, he's never going to make you feel even OK, let alone happy. Ditch the self-hate, love your body as it is now, if you want to improve your health there's tons of ways and it isn't helping anyway.

I try saying little things, "You deserve to be treated well. Don't beat yourself up, no one takes good care of things they hate." Sometimes I still feel like a bit of a freak for seeing bias, privilege and politics everywhere, that I'm being paranoid but they are there and I wish my friends could see them too so they wouldn't feel helpless and crazy. Once you see them you realize you're not alone, that its not all your fault and that you can change things, but it is so hard to introduce people to these ideas without coming across to them as a stereotypical radical (not that there's anything wrong with that, but people tend to dismiss what you say if they think it's "weird").

The more I see how things work the better I feel, and the more I'm able to look at my own feelings of self-hate with a greater sense of peace. I generally use this journal for sexy stuff, but these issues ARE related to my sexy stuff. When I'm free politically I'm free personally, and that means I get better orgasms. So there.
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To everything turn, turn tuurrrrrn [Jan. 25th, 2008|03:48 pm]
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And the switch happens again, thankfully. I've taken the afternoon off to work on my room as I would love to enjoy some relaxing spanking in there, once it is habitable again. I think I will also help myself to those beers just hanging out in the fridge, woo yay, nothing like cold refreshments while you're actually being productive!

We had a great time at the flea and went away with:
A pair of LBD wrist cuffs
A Pair of LBD ankle cuffs
A new leather collar for the boy
A hog tie clip
A panel gag

Every time I log into my journal I get totally distracted by corsets and never end up posting... except now.
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(no subject) [Jan. 19th, 2008|11:09 am]
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I'm going to a femme sock hop in a week or so. I'm rather excited, because I'll have the support of two lovely lady friends, but I'm still anxious. I always get so nervous, especially around people I'm trying to impress.
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In the Bleak Midwinter... [Dec. 27th, 2007|02:33 pm]
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all my roommates go away so I can make use of the lovely rafters in the living room! They are structurally load bearing so I don't want to put any extra weight on them (my suspension dreams can wait), but they're just fine for making someone happily immobile for a while.

Yikes, my stomach just growled so loudly I startled myself. Also I wicked gotta peeeeeee...


 and away!!!
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Yikes. [Dec. 6th, 2007|09:17 am]
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I was about to join the gentle_domme community until I saw this post. I can understand restricting membership to dominant women, but the repetitively crazy use of italics and transphobia made me change my mind. I am generally suspicious of people who use italics like that, unless they're Anne Shirley.
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Yes. [Nov. 28th, 2007|06:00 pm]
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I found a Yoga place that I hope my boy likes, it is just called "Yoga Cambridge" and has a class on Sunday mornings at 11. I know weekends are prime real estate for free time, but I think doing something healthy together would be really good for us physically & emotionally. It is incredible to me, and increasingly so as I grow older, how closely the two are tied.
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Tee hee. [Nov. 28th, 2007|05:54 pm]
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After work I was just sitting at home, looking for non-work-safe LJ communities, and found one for the Addams Family. The community itself isn't terribly interesting to me, but this post was: http://community.livejournal.com/addamses/7607.html









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proud! [Nov. 26th, 2007|12:30 pm]
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I'm terribly proud of myself. I've managed to not spend my entire paycheck! I still have a healthy buffer for rent and the upcoming holiday expenses. I'm hoping to save enough to afford a custom corset sometime in 2008, and also fit up a bit. I'm not concerned about the weight as much as  feeling low energy & weak. I like feeling physically strong.

This weekend--despite having a nearly nonstop migraine--was quite nice. I spent it with my boy in his room. I sometimes wish we lived alone, but I love our roomies so much it mostly works out. We just have to be more aggressive in making time for ourselves.

I contacted Secrets In Lace, hoping they would have a nylon stocking in my size but no luck for my thighs! Their largest nylon stocking would be way too tall & narrow for me, as I am short & round, and their plus size stockings would be just a wee bit too big and still far too long. My boy says our search will continue, but I honestly doubt I'll find a place that makes them in my rather hard-to-find in between size.

I just found Nightshade London, a gothy skirts tore from the corsetry community. Yay, another site to ogle at work! I ran into a coworker on the way to work and as we walked we discussed how much we need to get away from answering phones for a living. Phones phones, go away, ring again some other day. I think this job is increasing my telephonaphobia to an immense degree, I just hate talking on them these days. BAH HUMBUG!
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Domina [Nov. 16th, 2007|11:31 am]
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I ended up having a fantastic time last night. My boy & I were rather overwhelmed at first so we grabbed drinks and scurried into a booth to snuggle, take it all in and get really silly (I recommend this as a coping mechanism). It took us quite some time to work up the courage to hang out downstairs. The mood downstairs was subsequently interrupted by a glass breaking (due to us) & someone else puking a lot (due to, well, alcohol I assume) but it bounced back and I ended up talking to some very cool and friendly folks and even got to borrow a lovely little crop. As usual, we were more intimidated & anxious than we needed to be. It took about a half hour of discussion to even work up the nerve to us the St. Andrew's cross for about five minutes. Those five minutes were incredibly rewarding, I've never done anything like that! A PLUS, us. One of the folks I spoke to recommended Machine, and I have to say after this overall positive experience I am definitely considering it.
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(no subject) [Nov. 15th, 2007|06:13 pm]
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Going to Domina tonight for the first time! I've never been to a public play space, I know I'll enjoy the dancing so even if I don't feel like playing I'll have a great time.

Oof, originally I was going to wear my corset but my internals pangs for the past few days may preclude that. I'm still not sure what I'll wear, I really have free rein with this. Lord knows I have enough black velvet and satin to choke a horse (why a horse? what did a horse ever do to me?) so I'm not worried about meeting the dress code. Off to ransack my closet!
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(no subject) [Oct. 30th, 2007|03:39 pm]
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I don't anticipate adding many people I don't know, but if you'd like to be leave a comment here.
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